New York Times’ Article on “Mommy” Bloggers Lights a Fire

March 18th, 2010
Author: Monica Cravotta

Honey, Don’t Bother Mommy. I’m Too Busy Building My Brand

Blogging, Texting Moms Ignoring Children

NY Times Artwork Depicting Blogging Moms

The article came out in the New York Times last weekend.  Author, Jennifer Mendelsohn, attended and reviewed a blogging conference called Bloggy Boot Camp designed for “Mommy Bloggers,” interviewing several attendees and panelists for the article.  The headline, lead copy, article placement (Style versus Business) and accompanying artwork has offended a significant number of highly-respected parenting blog writers and lit up a very heated debate of comments on numerous blog sites.

Reading the piece and some of the many reviews (PhD in Parenting, The Huffington Post and Mom101) along with several of the comments on a few sites, I’m first struck at how incredible it is that a debate can occur the way it does today thanks to the new world called the Blogosphere that inspired the article in the first place.

Like many of you, I grew up in the 70’s and 80’s. Our children will find it so archaic to hear about how we communicated through phones attached to the wall and that we were lucky if we had a long stretchy cord that allowed us to walk around the room while we gabbed. They’ll laugh that we wrote hand-written letters and passed notes on folded up pieces of paper in class. And the fact that we had to schlep to the bookstore or the library to research something will be our generation’s “When I was your age I walked 5 miles to school in the snow” story.

Now we experience instant conversations with multiple people. From around the world. Instant information. Instant debates. All kinds of voices expressing themselves on everything and anything. Offending. Being Offended. All in a few key strokes. I’m transported for a moment, hearing one of my favorite thick-Texas-accent lines from the documentary Hands on a Hard Body: “It’s a human drama.” Read More »


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Life in the Closet

March 15th, 2010
Author: Monica Cravotta

Tiny Closet Clothes No, I’m not gay. Sorry. That would be tantalizing news to spruce up this blog though, wouldn’t it?

The closet I’m talking about is quite literal and a hell of lot more mundane. Today I’m musing about my life in the monster closet that houses most of our clothes every day — organizing, or I should say attempting to organize clothes for four people.

I refer to the work as ,”Clothing Management.”  Because it’s more than laundry. It’s more than washing, drying, folding, and putting away.  It’s a practice that requires strategy, order and discipline. It’s a form of Supply Chain Management on the home front.

Mamas,  you know what I’m talking about.

When you have tots that change clothing sizes every few months, there’s an entire system that you have to put together to re-order the drawers and the closet.  If you’ve got two children of the same sex like me, you’ve got to keep track of the clothes that your eldest has grown out of and your youngest is too small to wear yet.  And when the youngest grows out of clothes (sniff-sniff), you’ve got to decide what you’re holding on to forever (because you’re crazy like me and think that your child will appreciate having them as an adult) and what you’re giving away.

Izzy DrawerYou need to organize all the clothes according to what fits regardless of what the label says — onesies labeled 6 months actually translate to “good ’til 18 months,” because they run big and/or your child is a runt like mine, or outfits labeled 18 months that have been handed down and washed so much that they’ve shrunk and are now fit your child at 12 months.  And when you stare into your drawer filled with tiny shirts and onesies and pants, you need to remember what’s what with the funky sizing so that the too-small weeding process happens regularly.

And, if you’re following your 2 or 3 year-old’s guidance and supporting her desire to do everything she possibly can by herself, you set up a drawer that is easily accessible for her to pick out her own clothes, with your daily additional task of reorganizing that drawer as necessary.

I do laundry at least every other day to keep up with it all. And I feel like despite all my efforts to keep everything in order — it’s still disorganized (notice closet pic with sundress hanging in the middle of coats and sweatshirts) and I’m constantly swimming in piles of clothes.

This time of year when Spring starts springing, I’m always inspired to do a major closet re-order, clean, and purge. This weekend I started the process and my heart ached when I took down one of the bins of clothes that I’d been saving for my tiniest off the top shelf in our closet. Baby Clothes Bins

A mis-matched bin that included winter clothes that would fit the baby nowUGH!

If you’re reading this from Colorado or Minnesota or New York, you might say — hey, you’ve got a solid month left for her to wear those winter clothes, right?

Not so much in Austin, Texas.  Spring has definitely arrived.  It got up to 80° here this weekend!  I felt strangely relieved when I saw it was a bit chilly this morning and I could dress Izzers up in one of the cute hand-me-down sweaters I had so carefully saved for her.  Maybe she will get a few weeks out of them at least.

By the end of our Spring Break, I’d like to get the girls’ hanging clothes and drawers seasonally organized so that sundresses aren’t hanging next to winter coats and little tank tops aren’t folded next to sweaters.  I will put the baby-baby-baby too-tiny clothes in paper bags to give away and face the sadness that always comes with this and the forced acknowledgement that my Littlest Angel won’t be a baby too much longer.

And I’m going to do some serious in-my-face fat sharpie labeling of the next round of hand-me-downs so I don’t miss using them again.

Anyone else working on similar projects this month?  I welcome any recommendations for Kiddie Clothing Management. Would love to get better at this.


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Feeding My Family with Love and Respect

March 12th, 2010
Author: Monica Cravotta

This post is part of the 2010 API Principles of Parenting blog carnival, a series of monthly parenting blog carnivals, hosted by API Speaks. Learn more about attachment parenting by visiting the API website.

Cravotta Family DinnerI was drawn to participate in this month’s API Speaks blog carnival because I find the topic so interesting in its subjectivity.  I view myself as:

An advocate of breastfeeding for both its health and nurturing benefits;

Someone desiring to provide and model healthy eating for my children (today we had mac-n-cheese, veggie burgers and fries….some days are better than others); and

Someone with deep curiosity around the intensely personal, primal nature of feeding our young that exists cross-culturally among mothers.

I feel very fortunate to be alive today and part of a generation of women that can experience so much when it comes to equal rights with men. I’m all about competing with men professionally and earning equal pay.

AND at the same time, I like to acknowledge gender differences and embrace all that is inherently feminine.  During this chapter of early parenting years, I personally feel a great sense of my own femininity when nurturing my children with their daily sustenance. I feel connected to all other mothers in the world through this practice — including animals — especially birds for some reason. Funny that one of my 20-something nicknames was “Monnie Bird.”

Guzer.com Photo

Guzer.com Photo

I think the highly personal aspect of feeding our children with love and respect is how we each define what that means a little differently. To tell a mother that she’s not feeding her child right — iye, iye, iye — that can be seriously offensive!  It seems to cut to the core of a defining aspect of motherhood.

So without implying any kind of critique if yours is different, here’s a window into my family’s practice of feeding with love and respect:

  • Extended Breastfeeding. This is a relative term…some moms define “extended” to mean until a child chooses to wean which could be age four or five. Each to their own. My goal is two years for my littlest. Read More »

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Mama Pet Peeves — Join the Purge!

March 9th, 2010
Author: Monica Cravotta

Book People Stairs*  Nipple twiddling, pinching and biting.  Always a good time.

*  The Double Cry (for parents of more than one you know what I mean…I can only imagine the Triple Cry).

*  The desperate need of a toddler to have something seemingly small be a certain way.  And each of these needs accompanied by intense, tear-filled despair:

“But I wanted to put the lid back on!!”

“Noooooooo!  I want the GREEN bowl!!”

“But Mama I don’t like that kind of noodle!!”

* When we’re all together (Mom, Dad, 3 year-old and 1 year-old): the inability to have an adult conversation. To even finish most sentences.

* Baby rapidly flinging and throwing food before I can prevent it.

* Dirty fingernails. I know. Random and petty.  But that’s why they call them “pet” peeves right?

* Walking into Casa de Luz (an Austin seat-yourself vegan restaurant that we frequent) alone with my two Littles — one that needs to be carried and the other that needs to be watched — and experiencing a room filled with people absentmindedly half-watching me while I attempt to get the stuck high chair out off the top of the stack and awkwardly walk with it to a table while holding baby and no one feeling inspired to offer a hand.

* Reliving the college experience without the fun freedom perks:   intense sleepless nights like studying for finals — but “finals week” lasts for three years and there is no sleeping in. Ever. Eating a lot of beans and rice because we can’t afford anything else. Feeling hungover all the time without the good-time alcohol buzz that should precede it. And being in a perpetual state of learning something new the hard way.

* When people say, “You look tired.”  How do I respond to that?  Usually with a smile and a simple, “Yep, you nailed it!”  What I’d like to say is, “Glad to know I look hot — thanks for noticing! It’s been so fun sleeping and showering and exercising and primping lately!”

*  Floor level merchandising directed at children.  The local master at this: Book People. Their children’s book section is on the second floor. Each step leading to the second floor has on it a different, random, completely unnecessary, but visually and texturally appealing to a child, thing.  Highly irritating to me. The last time we were there my 3 year-old picked up one of the balls and threw it down the stairs. I watched as it bounced all the way down and then flew past one of the employee’s heads at the bottom of the stairs.  The employee gave me a shaming look that said, “Why don’t you have better control of your child?”  And I slammed him back with my newly assertive, post HBAC look that said, “Are you kidding me? Your store created this, Asshole.”

* People who have a problem with public breastfeeding, people who think violence is the best way to raise a child to be respectful, and people who think being a Stay At Home Mom is mindless, easy work.

There! Feels good to get the oogies out as I like to say.  That was almost as satisfying as going out on a long run which is 100% in order today because it’s 75° and sunny in Austin today — Woo-hoo!

Any other mamas feel like adding to the Attachment Mama Pet Peeve list — I welcome it.


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“Slip, Trip, Stumble, Fall…

March 7th, 2010
Author: Monica Cravotta

Tip the bucket, spill it all.  all-the-world-large

Better luck another day.

All the world goes round this way.”

Every page of Liz Scanlon’s All the World captures all that is pure, simple and earthy-true about the world we share. Playing at the beach. Climbing trees. Good food. Time with family. Day and night. Hot and Cold. Sun and Rain. Every page is beautiful thanks to her precious words and Marla Frazee’s masterful illustrations.

Because I feel like I’ve been stumbling a lot this week, her rainy day lines keep floating through my mind.

Better luck another day. All the world goes round this way.

Such a sweet nurturing message for us all when life doesn’t go the way we’d like.  We all stumble. We all fall. And what feels hard one day won’t the next.

What I desire and keep holding the intention to manifest — is steady, reliable work that will serve my higher good and the good of my family. And — WOW — it has felt like an incredible climb to bring it to life. Read More »


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