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Lessons from Kohn’s Unconditional Parenting

By Monica Cravotta | Published: Sunday, October 18, 2009

“The way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions.” (Kohn, pg 169)

THE BOOK IN A NUTSHELL

If you’re looking for a quick disciplinary fix for toddler tantrums or basic non-compliance, Alfie Kohn is not your man. He’s not about quick – nor about fixing for that matter. In fact, he challenges you to slow down and reconsider the entire Behaviorist discipline model that guides most families and schools today.

Rather than using rewards or punishments to cajole or direct behavior, Kohn suggests we put the relationship at the center of parenting to attend the larger aim of meeting a child’s basic need to feel loved unconditionally. Unconditional Parenting is a provocative read backed with a ton of research that ultimately pushes for a paradigm shift in the way we love our children and guide them to become moral people. (more…)