Comments on: Healthy Conflict Resolution at Home http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/ Austin AP mama shares insights and information on breastfeeding, co-sleeping, empathetic parenting and self care Mon, 14 May 2012 19:04:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Monica Cravotta http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/comment-page-1/#comment-553 Monica Cravotta Mon, 24 May 2010 02:22:54 +0000 http://attachmentmama.com/?p=1159#comment-553 Dawn -- You're the best. I love that your family literally rocks it out. love you Dawn –
You’re the best. I love that your family literally rocks it out.

love you

]]> By: Monica Cravotta http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/comment-page-1/#comment-552 Monica Cravotta Mon, 24 May 2010 02:22:08 +0000 http://attachmentmama.com/?p=1159#comment-552 I'm so with you on this Amy. thanks for sending a note on this post! I’m so with you on this Amy. thanks for sending a note on this post!

]]> By: Monica Cravotta http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/comment-page-1/#comment-551 Monica Cravotta Mon, 24 May 2010 02:18:23 +0000 http://attachmentmama.com/?p=1159#comment-551 Mc - these are great conflict coping skill! Not talking when feeling amped up with anger and being honest about fears -- we could both benefit from doing more of that. AND, isn't it amazing how you can share a life and a home and children with someone and going days without really having a conversation?? You're talking all day long about the house, the bills, 100 things about the kids, dinner, your jobs, social calendar and by the time you get the kids to bed it's so natural to want to tune out. Those 15 minutes/night would do me wonders for sure. Mc – these are great conflict coping skill! Not talking when feeling amped up with anger and being honest about fears — we could both benefit from doing more of that. AND, isn’t it amazing how you can share a life and a home and children with someone and going days without really having a conversation?? You’re talking all day long about the house, the bills, 100 things about the kids, dinner, your jobs, social calendar and by the time you get the kids to bed it’s so natural to want to tune out. Those 15 minutes/night would do me wonders for sure.

]]> By: Dawn http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/comment-page-1/#comment-546 Dawn Fri, 21 May 2010 20:15:17 +0000 http://attachmentmama.com/?p=1159#comment-546 We have found one solution (that I can actually print) - loud loud ROCK. Vann is starting drum lessons tonight. What better way for a teenager to get out his frustrations? (Hard on mama but worth it.) Reagan is starting guitar lessons. The harder they rock, the better they sleep. Ironically, peace follows. As for John and I... rock isn't always the answer but we've found our ways. :) We have found one solution (that I can actually print) – loud loud ROCK. Vann is starting drum lessons tonight. What better way for a teenager to get out his frustrations? (Hard on mama but worth it.) Reagan is starting guitar lessons. The harder they rock, the better they sleep. Ironically, peace follows.

As for John and I… rock isn’t always the answer but we’ve found our ways. :)

]]> By: McClain http://attachmentmama.com/2010/05/healthyconflictresolutionathome/comment-page-1/#comment-544 McClain Fri, 21 May 2010 14:29:50 +0000 http://attachmentmama.com/?p=1159#comment-544 I agree---this is a tough one. The things I've found helpful are a) not talk when I'm angry and feeling amped up and b) be honest about my fears, insecurities instead of instantly blaming the other person. It is hard to take responsibility for my own feelings but it does seem to help foster less defensiveness. It has also helped so much for Bill and I to talk---just us---after kids are asleep for 15 minutes. Most of the time we don't want to do it--we want to zone out. But, it has had amazing results. It keeps anger away for some reason. Just talking about anything lighthearted. go figure. I agree—this is a tough one. The things I’ve found helpful are a) not talk when I’m angry and feeling amped up and b) be honest about my fears, insecurities instead of instantly blaming the other person. It is hard to take responsibility for my own feelings but it does seem to help foster less defensiveness.

It has also helped so much for Bill and I to talk—just us—after kids are asleep for 15 minutes. Most of the time we don’t want to do it–we want to zone out. But, it has had amazing results. It keeps anger away for some reason. Just talking about anything lighthearted. go figure.

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